Saturday, 23 June 2012

Getting Close

A risky business getting close to people. I know over the years I have been rather cautious about getting involved with people. Most of us will be able to recall times where we have trusted in people and they let us down. People who on the surface come across as genuine and caring that you open up to and find that they are only there for the good times. People who tell you one thing and do another.

When I was in my 20's a running friend lent me a book to read. Admittedly it took me a few months to finish it but without a word to me he went around telling others that I stole it from him. I felt really let down by him as he had become what I thought was a good friend. From that moment on I never trusted him again or had any time for him.

Opening up to others of course makes you vulnerable and it is human nature to protect yourself. It makes it particularly hard when you feel you make a connection with someone who initially appeared genuine and you find is unreliable.

This blogging business has been a special way of connecting for me and although most people I am in contact with I will probably never meet in person it has been lovely to open up and share parts of my life with them. It has been lovely to communicate with others who share similar experiences and it is a positive network of support.

A special thanks to Lea for introducing me to blogging as I am enjoying sharing my music with others.

Also a special mention to John who many will know writes delightful and entertaining posts. It has been a great pleasure to learn about John through following his blog and also to meet up with him in person on my recent expedition to England. In one day it felt like we had known each other forever. I look forward to catching up again in 2 years time if he doesn't change his mind in the meantime.

I want to finish with the song I have posted before that sums up this post. This recently written song is called Hold Me and was recorded with John while with him at his home in southern England. The song's lyrics are about letting someone get close to you and how much joy that can bring. It speaks of how another person's love can transform you from sadness and emptiness to joy and hope. Only by opening up to others can we be truly loved.

Hope you enjoy Hold Me! If you have heard it already have another listen as I believe it is one of my finest compositions and has been an important song for me in love's journey.


Ellie said...

It is always a disappointment when somebody turns out not to be who you thought they were.
You are right about blogging though, I've really enjoyed getting to know bloggers from all over the world.

Don't unplug your hub. said...

You will always be welcome here Paul. You are right we did become true friends through blogging and meeting. I am pleased to call you my friend, even though you did break Tricia's shower head! :-)

Lea said...

I'm glad you started blogging. You write really well. It is really neat that you actually got to meet somebody through blogging and that you formed a life-long friendship in the process.

Victor e suas opiniƵes said...

Nice blog Mr. Paul, keep wirrting !

Becky said...

I love the sense of Community that is found in blogland and now on You Tube. It truly is remarkable how connected you can be with people from all over the World. I so enjoy following your blog and reading of your adventures in this thing called life. Thank you for being just who you are.

affectionforfitness said...

Hi Paul! That guy should have simply asked for his book back! Geez!

But I know what you're saying. I am finding it easier and easier to detect the fake-y backstabbers. If a person is too materialistic and excessively concerned about what others think of of them, I stay far away!

:-) Marion

blackhuff said...

I love to listen to your songs. The words you use in them, is so deep and meaningful. You have a way with words and putting them in songs, is a talent for sure.
Keep writing and singing.